You, Me and Her

With different types of ways to keep the "fire" in ones relationship, couples may take it to the next level. Maybe an extreme level. So what if your mate came to you with this question? Inviting another female into your domain, or better yet your best friend? Awkward right? As one who has been placed in this situation, I didn't know how to respond. We know that relationships go through turmoil, from lies to infidelity, from finances to infertility, or as plain as I can get, unhappy. Whatever your relationship is facing, your at your wits end with your spouse, thought you tried everything to change the cycle. But when you really think about it did you really try? If you let him come in at 4 in the morning, stay out 2 to 3 days at a time, never being concerned, nor confronting the issue, just living this illusion that everything is good because this is all you know. Love is not a easy emotion, when you feel that feeling in your gut, that the person your with is what makes you smile even when they aren't there.

So how do you improve your relationship that obviously has came to a u-turn? If you really want it to work, honesty and communication. I never knew what these concepts were, until faced with the nasty truth, to loose a person who you have grown to love. So what was my response to the question at hand? Truthfully, there has always been a curiosity with another female, have I experimented, NO. Will I? If the opportunity presented itself, YES. All relationships have different outcomes with these situations, it depends on the couple. It takes comfortability and security with yourself and in your relationship to prepare one with the outcome, because it can go either way.

Now, with a friend, at the end this is the person you possibly shared your secrets with, she knows things about you that your mate doesn't. I think its fair to say that this might potentially ruin the relationship, I wouldn't feel comfortable after, but again that's my opinion. Every situation will present itself in a different light, it takes a strong head to deal with the outcome no matter what is. Clear your intentions, this is when you take hold of what you possibly lost in your relationship, if your mate wants this to work as badly as you, make your demands. My motto is: you live once, so being open won't hurt. There is no win or lose, just happiness.