Making My Past My Strength

The impossible continues to happen, as one seeks to find self, determined to be released from the circle. The circle that keeps bringing them unnecessary pain and heartache. It was once told that one is not truly happy until they close that chapter to set them free. That chapter is officially closed is what you want to hear. Correct?, as it has taken unessential time from the things that matter most. But when is something officially damaged and may not allow you to come back to what seems real?? Do you trust again? Do you love again? Do you want again? But the question you ask, is what makes you, YOU?? What matters the most to YOU? When you answer that, all will seem crystal clear. I have come to realize that there were people placed in your path for a reason, GOD does not lead you into anything you can not control. As i continue to grow, my past has made my present, my future, my being. Without it, I could not be the female who stands before you today. I hear females speak, as if the end of the world is nearing. Seriously??? What happened to having fun? To just live life? To do things that some said you couldn't? When will people just come to realize that your problems are your opportunities. You cannot have the success without the failures. Always remember that In every defeat there is a lesson showing you how to win the next time. To all my ladies who ask me the question...How do i wake everyday with a smile? And the answer!!! My past is my strength...Hold on to the inevitable, as it will become the possible....

First written December 8, 2008

Curing Debt- The Nitty Gritty

For many this is a major issue, a major concern, a major problem. Debt is defined as an amount owed to a person or organization for funds borrowed. Statistically in America there is 13 trillion dollars in debt, and by 2020 it will increase to 22 trillion. Do you know how many zero's that is? 12 to be exact, that is by far the saddest thing because we are not being taught how to manage and budget our income. There are so many opportunities that make us become in debt before we even can't enjoy that first paycheck. We spend frivolously, at a infomercials, shopping, grocery stores, clubs and everything in between. Last year I came to the conclusion that I didn't know how to manage my money, now my debt probably was less than $1,000 with never having a credit card, but my credit was not the greatest for lack of a credit history. I had unpaid bills, from medical to cellphone carriers. I was upset at myself for not taking care of these items as they occurred, so that I can begin building my credit for that house. Then I asked myself this question, Are you willing to make changes necessary to cure the problem, rather than just treat the symptoms? So I decided to take these steps:

• I enrolled in a Debt Free Class
• Began to discipline myself, create a budget and stick with it
• more obedient through prayer, make sacrifices and cut down expenses
• Build a list on short and long term goals
• Hard work and a commitment to follow this realistic budget
• Learn to say no, be held accountable for your actions
• Be content with what you have
• Knowing your goal in the long run, most rewarding

If you have a credit card and its maxed, cut it up, borrowing just keeps putting you more in more in debt. We borrow for everything, just because a shiny plastic card has your name on it, doesn't mean its yours. Even coming down to not using my debit card, I took what I needed for that week, and left my cards at home. It wasn't a temptation, and after awhile I knew I didn't want the things that I thought I needed. After about 9 weeks, I eliminated a $400 bill, cut down expenses, from giving myself a realistic budget, which still included entertainment, you have to have some you time, but not to take out of your necessary priorities. And yes, I had rent, childcare, transportation, food, clothing and every other expense any American has, but I also limited myself to the needs perhaps to the wants. I score has increased by 150 points in 4 months. I know that there are some things out of our control, we want to attend school, have loans, want to buy a house, have a mortgage, but we have to learn where, when and how we should spend so that we have room for these things. I have 3 children, who one day I would love to send them off to college, this is the time for me to begin so they don't have to go through the hardships I have had to overcome. This is our future, and we need to be more mindful of how our dollar's are spent because the boutique on the corner is just benefiting for the now, and not the future. 

Oxis- The Healthy Truth

Advancing Oxidative Stress Technology Oxis International, Inc. is the premiere provider for the potent antioxidant, Ergothioneine, which is a naturally-occurring amino acid . This amino acid has antioxidant properties. It is the only company that has developed this. In the human body, the largest amounts of ergothioneine are found in erythrocytes, eye lens and semen,and it is also present in the skin and through their patented synthetic manufacturing process remains the only significant commercial source of pure l-ergothioneine worldwide. OXIS International, Inc. is engaged in the research, development and sale of products that counteract the harmful effects of “oxidative stress.” Oxidative stress refers to the situations in which the body’s antioxidant and other defensive abilities to combat free radicals are overwhelmed and one’s normal healthy balance is either lost or severely compromised. The potential benefits of ERGO include its ability to, conserve and maintain the levels of other antioxidants such as Vitamin E, Vitamin C and glutathione.Oxis has several therapeutic compounds that are available to be licensed including anti-inflammatory and several therapeutic antioxidant mimics with potential applications in the treatment of neurodegenerative (Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s), cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and other conditions.

OXIS’ consumer products strategy addresses very important health concerns including aging and age-related disorders that are increasing with trends in US demographics. These concerns include:




•Brain health

•Immunity against diseases

•Anti-aging/skin health

•Inflammation

•Detoxification

•Blood sugar regulation



There products are currently being evualted and include a line of skin care for that anti-aging, as well as health bars, energry beverages and are on the verge of being part of what this world needs.
For more information on this product visit the website. http://www.oxis.com/

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Unthinkable- Alicia Keys!!!!!

This video has been anticipated since the day this tuneful melody hit the airwaves. I have seen this song, the lyrics as twitter topics, bbm status, as everyone telling their mate "I'm Ready" The video just proved  how even though life has changed from back in the 60's or before then, when colored were segregated from the whites, we still deal with issues of inter-racial relationships, same-sex couples and other controversies that are always the topic of discussion. It's amazing how she always puts real issues into her videos, how you can feel her words and pain, as love found her, you don't always find love. With Chad Michael Murray, Alicia has done it once again....

Alessandro Dell'acqua

For my men, without you...smile...I love to see a man in a shoe other than white uptowns, shiny pradas(which personally I do not care for) and Maurys(which I don't LIKE). So gentleman step your game up...

Sex and The City 2

The countdown begins with one of the Summer's Box office movies with the return of Sex and the City: 2. In May 2008, the first movie, of the six year series came out with Carrie as the soon to be blushing bride, Samantha with her relationship and trying to stay with one man, Charlotte with infertility issues, and Miranda  trying to cope with work, family, and learns of her husband's indiscretion. I'm ready to see what awaits from these four woman than have been part of our lives for 10 years. I don't know about you, but I can't wait!!!!!

Summer Must Haves

It's A Wrap


A touch of tribal influence, with leather cord detail and braiding.
Leopard-print ponyskin sandals with ankle ties, Christian Louboutin, $465

Or a little more....

Pair these fierce, spiky studded sandals with a slouchy T-shirt dress for a casual night out.
Studded suede flat with ankle cuff, Giuseppe Zanotti for Balmain, $1,075